As a caregiver, you must be creative and respond to the symptoms and changes of dementia. Some of these symptoms are expected, and some may be unexpected.
You expect dementia to cause memory loss. It does not always show itself as “Who are you?” or “Where am I?” However. Short-term memory is usually the first. This means that you have forgotten what happened earlier in the day, tracking your personal belongings, making any plans or remembering the steps required to complete the task.
People with dementia know that they are losing a part of themselves. They know these changes, although they may not be able to communicate them to you. This may affect their emotions and even their personality. Although these emotional issues are difficult to take care of, it’s important to remember that they have nothing to do with you. Sometimes, anger, rudeness, or frustrated behavior is the only way they know to deal with the only chaotic thoughts.
Hallucinations, delusions and delusions My grandfather suffered from dementia and once started recovering his experience from World War II. My mother-in-law is wrapped in a book or TV show and thinks we live in those stories. She often worries about being in a nursing home. When we left home, this worry made her a little paranoid.
THE UNEXPECTED SYMPTOMS OF DEMENTIA
For a year and a half, I am convinced that my mother-in-law has some serious bladder problems. Not only does she have urinary incontinence, but she refuses to wear adult diapers so you can imagine confusion. We visit a urologist regularly. They just continue to prescribe more medicine. Finally, I seek a second opinion. Facts have proved that incontinence is a common problem for people with dementia. They usually don’t realize they need to use the bathroom. Medical treatment is not only unnecessary for my mother-in-law, but actually caused more problems for her dementia.
Speech bursts and misconduct
My mother-in-law is no longer a witty person. Before conducting research, I was sure that her favorite past time had shocked everyone with her words. She tried to discuss our sex life with me and my husband. She likes to tell me about past sexual experiences. My friend was told to “enjoy” their spouse because she did. She doesn’t have a speech filter, no matter what the situation, the first thing she will think of is vague.
It seems that I try to reset my mother-in-law’s clock every week. Unless forced, she takes a nap instead of sleeping at night. When her sleep mode is turned off, all other symptoms become worse. She wandered around the house at night. She is often hungry. Her memory deteriorated to the point where I told her every step of even the simplest task, such as how to drink water.
Uncooperative and resistant
I never thought I would fight with someone so that they would only take care of themselves. Every day, I struggle with various ways to make my mother-in-law take a bath, drink water or wear underwear. These things seem simple to you and me, but to people with dementia, this seems scary or even unreasonable.
The cruel fact of this disease is that despite the continuous development of the disease, it is still incurable or truly curable. As caregivers, the best thing we can do is learn to live around and work with these symptoms and changes. Give your parents grace in these changes. They are confused and frightened. They may not remember that they had eaten lunch 20 minutes ago, but they realized that some parts of themselves were gradually disappearing. As always, give yourself grace when learning how to better care for parents of people with dementia.